Trust the Timing of Your Life
I mentioned this briefly in another post, but I think it is essential that we take stock of where we are in life and instead of beating ourselves up for not being where we think we should be, we relish in it. We should always aim to appreciate our position in life instead of hating it. Really, it might be beneficial to take a step back and examine why, if at all, we are so dissatisfied with where we are if we're not at the point we think we should be in life.
Truthfully, there is no schedule. There is not a certain point when one must graduate college, get a masters, get the dream job, climb the ladder, get married, and have kids. In fact, these things may never happen. That doesn't mean you did something wrong or you don't deserve these things- in fact, there is something to be said for a life lived outside the lines. Because really, these things are all just societal expectations. They're just things we think we're supposed to do by a certain age because that's what we grew up being told. I just don't think this is true. I have lived in different parts of the world and met so many diverse people, and what I've learned is that everyone's life is different and often times those who did what they thought they were supposed to be doing by a certain age were the most unfulfilled.
I believe in striving for a life that is as true to the person you are as it can possibly be. If this means you might not end up getting married, that's fine. It doesn't meant you won't find love. Do you understand what I'm saying? There are loopholes. There are absolutely innumerate amounts of paths you will be presented with and I myself will strive to choose whichever one is truest to my heart. Call me what you want, a 21-year-old naive kid who will eventually learn what the world is really like, I don't care. I don't care because I never want to lose this part of me. I never want to lose this part of me that yearns to live in such a way that her soul is fulfilled- and whatever that means in terms of when things happen for me is irrelevant. It really is.
Life has different timing for everyone. You are not doing it wrong. Just keep going and strive to live your most authentic life, if you can. It's worth it.
Because that way, every moment is beautiful and perfect and just the way it's supposed to be.